how to take a baby step
August 11, 2008
to get to the point i’ve been wondering how to take a baby step in some direction or another, with regard to the multitude of things that i would like to do/ accomplish. and of course this is taking me a huge amount of time- more than it should to be honest.
oddly enough an answer came to me at yesterday’s church service (thank you kiddos for going to the nursery so i could listen)- the title of the sermon was “faith is like love in marriage”. and without going into too much detail, it came down to how much fear can cripple or hurt us, and i realized i am fearful of doing anything…because i don’t know where to start, so i just don’t.
seriously here….anyone got any advice on how to break the fear? how do you take a baby step? is it just on faith? how do i know that i have enough faith (in me, in god, in anything) to do the “right” thing?
August 11, 2008 at 7:01 pm
This is a common problem with perfectionists! Focus on the step, not the outcome. When you complete one step, focus on the next. It’s like a life sized piggy bank. It’s hard to think of a quarter as a trip to Hawaii. Some people will use the change in the vending machine. Others lie on the beach! Okay, so that’s a big stretch, but it’s easier to think of saving a quarter per day than coming up with the amount of money it would take to go to Hawaii! Concentrate on the small goal which will ultimately lead to the big payoff!
August 11, 2008 at 9:09 pm
I agree with cbarrett’s post above. In addition, try recognizing when you are being afraid of something. Ask yourself why. Then choose to act on it BECAUSE you are afraid of it. It pushes you out of your comfort zone, but it also creates a space for miracles to happen.
Kinda the old saying of “how do you know you don’t like it if you don’t try it…”
Also, do you really have faith in yourself if you keep chosing to do things you know you can do? That sounds like knowledge, not faith.
Lastly, quit focusing on doing the “right” thing. How do you know what is “right” until you try it. Give yourself permission to make mistakes, they allow opportunities to learn from them.